adoption ramblings

[percival]

Somehow I think – don’t laugh – that maybe we’re meant to adopt. My husband is so patient, and my heart really goes out to these poor kids in orphanages without a future. We’d make really good adoptive parents. We both can love kids no matter whether they’re biologically ours or not, and I’m good with languages and love learning about different cultures. I’m sure I can be there for an internationally adopted kid when his/her time comes to go back to her roots. I’ll be good at letting go. All kids are only ours for a short while; they’re on loan. Adopted kids are no different, and if they go back to search for their roots, that’s a normal part of finding their identity. It doesn’t mean that they reject their adoptive family. I keep hearing stories of international adoptions, and I keep rooting for the parents to get their kids as soon as possible, sharing the excitement and the frustration and the joy. Whatever adoption is, it’s not a second-best choice, it’s an alternative way of building a family. I know now that it’s not a cure for the pain of infertility, but it’s a cure for the pain of being without kids to raise.

I’ve also come to realise that my husband is pretty unique in that he accepted adoption as a solution very early on in the game. Having a family is what matters to him. I’m going to talk matters over with my husband some time over the next year or so, because once we start the adoption process, I want to make sure that we’ll go all the way, no matter whether we reproduce naturally or not.

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It took us about 4 years to become adoptive parents from the time we decided to stop all the "heroic interventions" till the moment we took custody. The hard part for us was trying to figure out how to adopt (international v. domestic, independent v. agency). We ended up doing an agency-based domestic newborn adoption, which pretty much amazed both of us. Of course we had to travel halfway across the country (Texas) for our baby to find us but it has worked out pretty well. This past weekend in the supermarket I ran into a woman I know who, with her husband, adopted a toddler from Poland. The little girl is about 4 now and just gorgeous. If you need specific adoption-related moral support, I'm here for you :)