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So my husband is becoming disenchanted with the whole idea of IVF, and he resents how the Royal Infirmary is treating us: the long waits, the lack of information. We're at a stage where we're tentatively saying: we'll give it one more year, and then adopt. That year we could use to get permanent residence here in the UK.

But when it gets to the adoption stage: First of all, social services can and will snoop in your medical records to check you're not undergoing infertility treatment. Normally, they will wait at least a year after your last treatment to make sure you're over your infertility (really? is one ever OVER that?). Then, they will make you wait up to two more years for your home study (lack of people, lack of resources, especially if you're adopting from overseas), which will consist of up to 15 home visits and take six months to complete. Oh, and will cost £ 3000 - 3500.

Then, it's Documents to China time. (waves to aome and sit_good_dog). Yup, China is the only country with enough adoptive kids whose adoption processs is recognised by the UK. Any other country would be a nightmare, because us two German citizens would have to carry an adoption through the courts so that the kid can become a German citizen. Yes, that's right - kiddo can only be a Brit if my husband or myself change nationality. Thailand and Vietnam blocked Brit adoptions in 2003. I wonder why ...

So, after we've tried for a baby for another year, it's 2-3 years wait for a home study, then another 9 months for the home study to be completed, then another year's wait for travelling to China. The upside is that there WILL be a baby at the end of this journey. The downside is that I may well be 37 before I hold our daughter in my arms. Yes. 32 + 5 years = 37.

Ten years' wait for a child.

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