fertility decisions

[percival]

So my husband and I had The Talk about our fertility treatment. He was not impressed by the response from the SUIT study doctor - it just cemented his bad opinion of Edinburgh Reproductive Medicine Services. My husband is also majorly freaked out by IVF as a procedure - he wouldn't want to undergo it, were he a women. And he most certainly doesn't want me to undergo it in the stressful, unsupportive environment that is Edinburgh Royal Infirmary. They may be world-class medically, but there is no continuity of care, and nobody to talk to when you need your questions answered.

Me? I want a child. And even if we start the adoption process now, I'll be 36 or 37 once we get our child. I don't want to add 3-4 years onto that just because I HAD to have that shot at a couple of cycles of free IVF.

OK, so I don't suffer from a "real" disease, I'm just unable to have a baby. But I believe that if you offer a service, you should offer it properly or not offer it at all.

The upshot?

No SUIT study. We will phone Dr Kini tomorrow.

No IVF. My husband will write a letter to Edinburgh Fertility tomorrow.

One more year of trying, then adoption.

Yet again, NHS patient care saved the system considerable expenses.

Result.

Comments

[angelofthenorth.livejournal.com]

Good, you've made a decision and I'm proud of you for that.

Take care of yourself, take time to grieve. *holds you tightly in my soul*

[perceval.livejournal.com]

Yeah, grieving is in order. I still don't quite realise the impact of the decision we've made not to go through with artificial techniques.

But maybe somewhere is a child who needs us ...

[angelofthenorth.livejournal.com]

There's always kids that need you...