Ok, so I'm panicking.

[percival]

I know that British social services can be terribly unsupportive of adoption and inter-country adoption. The tales I've heard/read about people waiting in vain for case workers, the constant reminders to ADOPT from BRITAIN wherever possible, that one should only adopt from another country if there is no way that the child could be cared for in the country of origin (the last two from a leaflet of a support organisation for infertile parents). I'm also afraid we'll be deemed too old upon entering the process (don't laugh! parents on the wrong side of 35 may well be deemed geriatric by social workers - and my husband will be 35 next year, 36 in 2006. I will be 31 and 32, respectively.)

I'm afraid we'll be denied a child.

But what I'm most afraid of is that fear will paralyse me.

So onward Christian soldier. No fretting about Social Services allowed for at least another year. In the mean time, join Adoption UK, read up as much as you can, talk to as many inter country adopters as possible.

Be positive.

Somewhere, a child is waiting for us, and we'll find him/her.

~frames sit_good_dog's comment~

Comments

[janeylou.livejournal.com]

Yup, that's what they said! Even though, at the time, I didn't smoke. I didn't drink. I owned my own place which had a garden. We were both working in good jobs.

I can understand why they make it hard to adopt with such things like child abuse, mental instability and other delights of the human nature, but sometimes I think they take it a bridge too far, making problems where there are none and creating obstacles that needn't even be there. I smoke. I have young kids, so I puff out in the garden. Problem solved!

*is miffed at authority in general*

[perceval.livejournal.com]

F****** bastards. If that's all, I don't know what hit them. But it would fit nicely with what I've read about others' hurdles.

I readily accept that adoption case workers try to do their best, that they try to find the best possible solutions, that they're hampered by lack of funding, discouraged and demotivated by bad working conditions. But sometimes, people can be a bit overzealous ...