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Jul. 15th, 2003 09:38 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
percivalcross posted from the Quill
I'd like as many children as I can have, for several reasons:
- I'm an only child, and my parents are quite fixated on me; they are lonely people, and they would never consider going into an old people's home. So I am about to start training as a holistic therapist to make sure I can create a job for myself at home if I need to in a couple of years time, because I will have to be the one to see them through their old age. I have NO cousins, aunts or uncles to help me, because my parents are only children themselves.
Parents of only children, set them free. Please don't expect them to look after you and provide for you, or if you do expect that, be flexible in where you live out your life. make sure they can be independent. They will care for you tenderly if they need to, but if they do not feel *forced* to be there for you, your relationship will be all the richer and closer for it.
- My husband and I are having fertility problems at the moment. I am 29. By the time my first comes along, I will be 30 or 31. If we take into account the normal sex life slump after child birth, and the fact that it will have taken us ages to conceive number one, I figure that we will end up with two or three children by the time I become completely infertile. I'm now so desperate that I'm ready to accept every child as a blessing from God. Thy will be done.
- I was a lonely child, and would have loved to have brothers and sisters. As a kid, I wanted to have at least four kids.
Finally, for all those parents of only kids who keep getting told that their kids will miss out or be socially challenged: PM me and I will give you some references with which you can SMAX them scientifically.
I'd like as many children as I can have, for several reasons:
- I'm an only child, and my parents are quite fixated on me; they are lonely people, and they would never consider going into an old people's home. So I am about to start training as a holistic therapist to make sure I can create a job for myself at home if I need to in a couple of years time, because I will have to be the one to see them through their old age. I have NO cousins, aunts or uncles to help me, because my parents are only children themselves.
Parents of only children, set them free. Please don't expect them to look after you and provide for you, or if you do expect that, be flexible in where you live out your life. make sure they can be independent. They will care for you tenderly if they need to, but if they do not feel *forced* to be there for you, your relationship will be all the richer and closer for it.
- My husband and I are having fertility problems at the moment. I am 29. By the time my first comes along, I will be 30 or 31. If we take into account the normal sex life slump after child birth, and the fact that it will have taken us ages to conceive number one, I figure that we will end up with two or three children by the time I become completely infertile. I'm now so desperate that I'm ready to accept every child as a blessing from God. Thy will be done.
- I was a lonely child, and would have loved to have brothers and sisters. As a kid, I wanted to have at least four kids.
Finally, for all those parents of only kids who keep getting told that their kids will miss out or be socially challenged: PM me and I will give you some references with which you can SMAX them scientifically.
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Date: 2003-07-15 07:02 am (UTC)As for the dyspraxia: that, combined with low social skills and an above-average intellect meant that my school years were quite hellish. I was bad at sports, and overprotected. I now find that I'm quite good at anything that emphasises endurance (running, swimming, Yoga).
Since the dyspraxia was diagnosed only when I was five, I did receive therapy, but too late and in a group with children where I was a) the biggest and b) the only one with my particular deficit. I was bullied by one of the therapists, who brandished me a "little actress" whenever I was scared of doing something. It got to me so much that I lost much of my self esteem.