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cross posted from the Quill


I'd like as many children as I can have, for several reasons:

- I'm an only child, and my parents are quite fixated on me; they are lonely people, and they would never consider going into an old people's home. So I am about to start training as a holistic therapist to make sure I can create a job for myself at home if I need to in a couple of years time, because I will have to be the one to see them through their old age. I have NO cousins, aunts or uncles to help me, because my parents are only children themselves.

Parents of only children, set them free. Please don't expect them to look after you and provide for you, or if you do expect that, be flexible in where you live out your life. make sure they can be independent. They will care for you tenderly if they need to, but if they do not feel *forced* to be there for you, your relationship will be all the richer and closer for it.

- My husband and I are having fertility problems at the moment. I am 29. By the time my first comes along, I will be 30 or 31. If we take into account the normal sex life slump after child birth, and the fact that it will have taken us ages to conceive number one, I figure that we will end up with two or three children by the time I become completely infertile. I'm now so desperate that I'm ready to accept every child as a blessing from God. Thy will be done.

- I was a lonely child, and would have loved to have brothers and sisters. As a kid, I wanted to have at least four kids.

Finally, for all those parents of only kids who keep getting told that their kids will miss out or be socially challenged: PM me and I will give you some references with which you can SMAX them scientifically.

Comments

[swampfaye.livejournal.com]

My father is an only child. Actually, most only children I know definitely want more than one child - but no person I know with siblings wants only one child. Isn't that odd? It's always at least two...

And there is lots of data about social skills and only children. IT actually turns out they are better able to be socially skilled because their primary relationship comes from and with adults. This is why homeschooled children have no problem 'adjusting' to going back to school. Children who relate more to children than to adults have more problems adjusting. There is lots of information in Psychology Today about this, you just have to go looking for it.

[queenriley.livejournal.com]

You don't know me, but since I'm replying, you can technically know OF me. Now you can say you know one family that, both adults had siblings (I have an older sister, my husband has two younger siblings, one sister and one brother) and we have one child. Just one. And we don't want any more kids.

So now you know one person who had siblings and is perfectly happy with her 'only'.

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[swampfaye.livejournal.com]

that's why i said 'people i know'